I think every blogger considered the idea of giving up Blogging at some point in their journey. I was struggling with that for quite a long time. Daily life can be pretty hectic sometimes, and we don’t have much free time in our daily schedule anyway, so giving up on your blog looks like the easiest option. At least that was the reason I considered quitting.
Why I wanted to give up on my blog
I felt like I couldn’t keep up with my blog anymore, I wasn’t making any profit from it, I was almost drowning with social media and scheduling apps, couldn’t finish a single challenge (yes Blogtober, I’m talking about you!) and it was stressing me out really bad. Giving up was the easiest and safest option. But it just didn’t feel right. I knew I would feel incomplete without it, and I just didn’t want to make a decision so I came up with the mindset “I will deal with that later”.
However, 2019 came, and I knew that I couldn’t move into something new without dealing with my old problems. So I dedicated a few of the first days of 2019 to figure out what to do. The truth is that Blogging requires a lot of work. I think we can all agree with that. Especially when you’re working on your blog alone, you’ve got to do so many stuff at the same time and it can be really frustrating.
But I also know a lot of bloggers that came up with strategies that work for them and they do miracles! Also, I know that there are many resources out there, both free and paid, that can be helpful, and with some realistic goals, you can always move forward.
I strongly believe that every problem has a solution. Now, finding a solution can be quite tricky. You can’t really think straight when you’re overwhelmed, or frustrated, or stressed. So figuring out what to do was harder than I thought. But as you can see I’m still here writing on this blog and of course, I didn’t give up. And just in case you feel like me, you should try a few things before you give up.
Now before I begin, I want you to know that this is a big decision, and you have to make sure that this is something YOU really want to do and that you’re completely okay with it, or else you will regret it. Blogging is something that requires a lot of time from YOUR daily schedule, either you’re doing it as a hobby, or it’s your side job and you make some income from it. It took me days to make a decision because I wanted to make sure I won’t regret it. So don’t rush. Make sure to dedicate some special time on this decision.
5 Things to try when you feel like giving up Blogging
1. Remember your “Why”
The biggest factor of Blogging. YOUR WHY.
Let’s take a trip down memory lane. The first days of your journey. When you first started your blog, or when you decided to go to college, or when you decided to start working out. You did all these for a reason right? So you need to find that “WHY”. That big “Why” that made you start. Remember every single detail of it. Those feelings of excitement and determination.
You see most of the times we get overwhelmed with all the frustrations that we might face in our journey, that we often forget our “Why”.
Now you might be wondering what’s so important about it. Well, if you still feel that you’re connected with you “Why”, if you still feel that burning desire to accomplish your goal, or go after your dream then quitting is probably not the right option.
What I would suggest, is to write down your “WHY” and put it somewhere that you can easily see it every day. It’s a great reminder to keep you motivated, and help you through those “dark” days that you feel like giving up!
2. Don’t allow fear to stop you
Oh, Fear. That little voice in your head that tells you what you can or can’t do. I was controlled by fear almost my whole life, up until I started digging on what fear actually is. And what’s really funny about fear, is that it’s actually all in our imagination. Most of the things that we’re afraid of, might never happen. So… you might be afraid of many things, but are you really sure that any of these are going to happen?
And no, the fact that it happened in the past once or twice is not an excuse. It’s in the past, it’s gone. Every situation is new and different.
When you’re about to make a decision (any decision!), you have to find what are you afraid of, and you have to be really honest with yourself. I’m not going to lie. Facing your fears is not an easy process. You’ll always be afraid because that’s how our minds are designed. They are trying to protect us, so they will always give us the easiest and safest option. But this doesn’t mean it’s the right one.
So instead of fear, start having faith. When you feel afraid of something, first of all, acknowledge it, then accept it and try to have faith. Faith in yourself, Faith in your goal, and faith in your “Why”.
But what if you fail?
Well, you will try again. (Trust me I’ve failed quite a lot of times, yet here I am!) You’ll learn a lesson and you’ll be better next time! No excuses. Have faith!
3. Reevaluate your Attitude
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelou
Sometimes we feel like we have tons of problems and our lives are messy when the real problem is our attitude. We get caught up with our everyday busy schedules that we forget to pay attention to our attitude. They say: “Life is not happening to you, Life is just responding to you” and I truly believe that. So if you’re really considering giving up, before you do it, have a reevaluation of your attitude. But be honest.
Did you really try your best? Were you consistent? Were you grateful? Did you have a positive or a negative stance over the things that happened? Where you optimistic? Did you focus first on your own happiness or others?
You might not see it now, but if you change some of those things, and if you slowly start to change your attitude, you are definitely going to see change. The answers to these questions above might be the reason why you drew yourself away from your goal, your dream, your purpose. So do you think it’s fair to give up when there are so many things that you could actually do differently and get different results?
4. Ask for help.
Something I’m really bad at. I always think I can do everything by myself, and when I can’t, I feel disappointed and overwhelmed. (still, need to work on that!) Asking for help though is a good thing. First of all, it will give you time to breathe. We all have busy schedules so when you actually ask for someone’s help, most likely you’ll be able to have some more time for you.
Asking for help is a strength.
It means you’re strong enough to admit that you can’t do everything and that you don’t have all the answers.
Also, it means that you’re able to deal with uncomfortable emotions like humility and embarrassment (I don’t know why but every time I ask for help I feel so shy and embarrassed).
It means that you’re vulnerable and that you can acknowledge it and then accept it.
It means that you are able to get out of your comfort zone.
I understand that for some people this isn’t easy. But try to see it from the other person’s point of view. When you help someone, don’t you feel that great warm feeling inside you? Don’t you feel great helping other people? Don’t you feel great contributing? I know.. this is such a beautiful feeling. So why you want to keep it only to yourself? You should share those feelings with other people who care about you and want to help you. Remember collaborating with others is such a great thing!
“Alone we can do so little, Together we can do so much!” – Helen Keller.
Always remember that!
5. What can you change?
Alright, this is more like a “life-advice”, but I used it for my blog and well… it worked miracles!
If you didn’t know that already, I love spending time with myself. I love talking to myself and trying to write down my thoughts on my journal. It’s such a great way to clear your mind. But there is one special question, that could transform your life as long as you’re completely honest with yourself.
First, you start with the question “What you don’t like about your life/blog right now?”
Take a piece of paper and write down everything that you don’t like about your life or your blog right now. If the answer is “a lot of things” then write them ALL down. You’ve done it? Great.
Now take that piece of paper and act like some friend of yours gave it to you. And … time for the special question: “What can you change?”
Go through every single sentence and give your “friend” some honest advice. You know that your advice might be kinda hard to do, but you know that your friend can do it if they want to change their situation right?
Alright, now it’s time to really change your life.
Most of the times when we face a problem we overthink it again and again. And the result is to make one huge BIG problem out of nowhere when the answer is pretty simple. CHANGE. Nothing will change unless you change. You can’t expect different results when you’re doing the same actions. So take MASSIVE action and transform your life and your blog!
And remember, everything can change. No matter your past, no matter your age, no matter how you’re feeling right now. You can change EVERYTHING as long as you’re willing to do it. You know what you have to do, all you need is courage and some will power. And if you really want to change YOUR life or your blog, or anything, you’re the only person that can do it. It’s up to you.
Time to make a decision
Giving up might always seem like the easiest and safest option, but that doesn’t mean it’s the right one. When your “Why” is really worth it, you have to go after your purpose. Try different things, ask for help, have faith and don’t you dare to settle for something less than you deserve.
I know that a lot of you struggle with your blogs. I got to know so many of you through The Blogging Tribe, and even if you’re at the beginning of your blogging journey, or somewhere in the middle, have courage. Blogging isn’t easy, but the process and the journey are truly beautiful. Remember you’re not alone, and always remember your WHY.
Have you ever felt like giving up blogging? If yes, did you quit, or you just kept going? I really want to hear your thoughts on this issue. Drop your comments below!
Oh, and if you need a little support and encouragement, you should definitely join The Blogging Tribe. This community always reminds me that we’re not alone, and when we support and help each other we can achieve so many beautiful things!
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